Nursing the Nurses
Candice Jones has been a nurse in Boston, MA for 20 years, in a noble and valuable profession. If you’re a nurse, it’s gratifying to help people get better, knowing that your nursing expertise had a lot to do with their return to health. But you also know that the job can eat you alive unless you have an active support group.
CJ Consulting, Candice’s company, has a heart for nurses and healthcare providers who feel burned out and fear they’re losing their voice as individuals. Clients are free to contact her via computer using Zoom Conference, for maximum convenience. Candice works with her clients to uncover who they are authentically. Then, she helps to develop a plan of actions for her ‘patients’ for living on their terms and getting their joy back.
You healthcare providers, especially nurses, are used to meeting the needs of others. That’s why you chose the profession. But often you have difficulties caring for yourselves. You can find yourselves in a personal and professional downward spiral, toward depression and self-doubt. The same compassion that nurses give so freely to patients somehow gets used up before you’re able to minister to yourselves.
I envision changing the space of nursing to a place where nurses authentically know who they are and feel more empowered in who they are. The phase, “Nurses eat their young,” will be used less and less within our culture because nurses will no longer want to occupy that space. I may not change the entire culture but if I can help one person at a time, think how many lives will be affected.
Florence Nightingale, I’m Not
For years, Candice felt that downward pull. At times she felt so alone and ashamed of her feelings, believing that she had no one who understood what she was going through most of the time. And she could see it in her colleagues. The stories they shared resonated with her own experience, and Candice began to research coping strategies.
Through trial and error, Candice discovered an assessment tool that she incorporated in her daily life. Building personalized strategies for success on a regular basis works the best for her. Other techniques included proper nutrition, stress-relieving exercise, and learning to be happy in the moment.
Let me help you with that
Candice got control of her own situation, but her heart was still hurting for her colleagues. She still works as a nurse full time because she’s dedicated. And she knew that was true for most nurses. So, CJ Consulting came to be. One of the many positive thoughts on Candice’s Instagram page sums it up: Remember to take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
I envision holding workshops/training in which nurses/healthcare providers feel comfortable and safe discussing issues of self-love and the different ways of communicating (personally/professionally).
PRN for Pain
Word began to get around that Candice’s healing arts were helping nurses and health professionals to regain their passion and vitality. The next step was to give that an identity, to make it easier to find. Instagram was the first step, then it was time to go bigger.
The branding process has been a journey. In the beginning, I was unclear about my direction. I had an idea of what I wanted to do but not sure how to bring the idea to fruition. I received coaching and instruction from some amazing people. But I knew I needed someone to help me bring forth the vision I had in my head …someone to help breathe life into this vision. Someone to believe, see and feel what God had given me to fulfill.
I met my branding consultant at a conference a few years ago. At that time I did not know her in the capacity I know her today but I knew she was a woman that I wanted to work with in the future to help grow my business. My instincts told me to work with her for my image. I managed my own social media accounts – learned what I could by various research and online groups. Behind the scenes, I was working on my brand, but the pieces were just not falling into place for me. I kept changing my audience, my message, and I was not consistent in social media.
Branding is a team effort
I re-connected with my branding consultant in July 2018, and we began to work together on my branding concepts. She understood my vision and helped to develop it. This vision was not always an easy one. There were personal battles that I had to fight along the way.
The brand that I have today was birthed from many of my personal struggles and growth. My brand was also birthed from a vision of freeing another woman of losing precious time and memories, that she will not be able to regain because she is not living a life in which she is authentically herself.
The healing comes from within
The biggest obstacle has been keeping my vision when no one sees or believes it but me. I’m not going to lie, this obstacle has been very, very tough. There have been days of tears, frustration, anger… days of uncertainty, days of wanting to just give up and exhaustion. But there was something deep down that just would not let my vision die… let the light get blown out. This was probably God’s way of being the wind beneath my wings when I could not fly on my own. I have no other explanation for it.
A good outcome
Candice loves hearing the stories of the women who have started living their truths. Now they understand who they really are, and feel empowered to make the changes to live better. It’s exhilarating to know that these caregivers will in turn pass along their own healing!
For those who find themselves in this situation and who feel led to help others like Candice does, she has some very specific advice.
- Research your client base.
- Research your business/brand.
- Keep your social media page clean and professional.
- Have a mentor that can help guide you through the process.
- Do not be afraid to ask for help.
- Be prepared to not be successful at the beginning and along the way. Keep pressing forward!!! Learn from your failures. Be and stay organized.
- Be very protective of your dream/vision. Not everyone will understand it. Many people will laugh at you, not support you and try to talk you out of it. If you can’t stop thinking about it…there is a reason why.
- Work on your project every day, even if it looks like nothing is happening. Keep building it!
- Stay encouraged and determined even in the dark days.
- Every day, try to help at least one person.